Tammy Stoner, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, provides presentations, coaching and counseling services. As the developer of the Teddy Bear Technique® Toolkit she demonstrates fast and fun ways to engage in storytelling for adults and children, and quickly reach the hard to reach. As author, presenter and coach, services are guaranteed to create breakthrough results!
Anna Nicole Smith's Baby and Generational Repeat
The events and circumstances surrounding our birth affect us throughout our lives and repeat generation after generation. That's just the way it is. It's like that for you. It's like that for me, and it's like that for Dannielyn.
Tomorrow the Bahamian courts will begin to evaluate the custody of Dannielyn, and then make a crucial decision about the fate of this 6 month old baby, born to Anna Nicole Smith now deceased. While the public remains glued to the television screens, anticipating the expected outcome, questions will surface about the role of grandparents and fathers in child rearing.
While the public expects the fate of child rearing to be decided by the courts, the ultimate outcome will be decided by the relationship between the caregivers. The acceptance of this outcome will affect this child throughout her life. If Vergie, the grandmother and Larry the father stay cooperative, life for Dannielyn will be better then if they do not. All of which brings me to a very key point about the impact of "birth" and how it affects us throughout our lives. From the moment of birth this baby has been thrown into the eyes of the public. Beginning with the death of her brother, the death of her mother, the unanswered questions about paternity, the wealth dispursement of her mother's former husband Howard Marshall and the role of grandparents in raising children, questions have swirled around this baby.
If I possessed a crystal ball I would presume that when this child grows up and has children of her own, one will die and another will be born with questions about paternity surrounding it. If the grandparents and parents expect differences to arise between them and agree to disagree the child will fare better then if they don't. If they don't, we can expect Danielyn to have children with disputes between grandparents and parents and these issues will be duplicated from one generation to the next.
We are destined to repeat that which we don't accept or understand until we learn to accept it or understand it.
Parents involved in custody disputes would benefit by understanding generational repeat. It's more than the actual decisions that are made in court about where and who should assume custody that affect children. It's also about how these decisions occur. It's about the relationships between these ongoing relationships. Generations repeat. It's like that for you. It's like that for me, and it's like that for Danielyn. It's just the way it is.
I developed a model applying teddybears to explore generational repeat. I have organized the teachings into a total toolkit to provide you with a model of exploring generational patterns. I provide life coaching and family coaching services to explore relationship problems and solutions. I offer training to health care providers in how to apply teddy bears to teach about generational repeat. I invite you to visit the other pages on my website and purchase this toolkit for your group or practice or to utilize the life coaching services.
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